5 Sure-Fire Ways to Overcome Insecurity
by Tracy Pollack
Believe it or not, everyone feels insecure from time to time. We all wonder if we’re good enough, smart enough and whether people like us. We have doubts about our relationships, anxiety about our futures and wonder if we’re living up to everyone’s expectations. But enough with not feeling good enough! You deserve to feel confident, capable and accepted every day. It’s time to overcome the insecurities that keep bringing you down and build up your self-esteem. How? By taking action and taking control of your life. Believe it or not, confidence isn’t something you’re born with, but a quality you develop in yourself over time. So why wait another day? Try these five simple steps to power past your anxieties and build confidence without a doubt.
- Become Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable
It’s time to get out of the zone—the comfort zone, that is. If you’re like many of us, the fear of failure prevents you from trying anything new. But the only way to face and fight your fears is by putting yourself in circumstances that make you feel uncomfortable. You need to step outside of your comfort zone and push yourself to do something completely unfamiliar. Something new. Something you’ve been too nervous or hesitant to do. It may sound scary, but you can do it. And once you’ve done it, you’ll gain confidence in the activities that you tried, as well as feel good that you were able to confront your fears head-on and stay strong throughout the struggle.
- Say No to Negative Thoughts
If your mind is constantly filled with negative thoughts, stop being your worst critic and become your biggest cheerleader! By putting yourself down, you’re only holding yourself back from achieving the things you want and feeling as good as you should. When those negative thoughts sneak up, you need to flip the script and replace them with some positive affirmations. These are simply supportive, uplifting statements that we say to ourselves.They’re compliments, rather than criticism, that build you up instead of putting you down. Repeating them like mantras makes your brain accept them, which allows you to believe them and builds your self-esteem.
- Feel Insecure? Join the Club!
Ever wonder why the kids in the popular group always seemed so cool and confident? Turns out that it wasn’t because they were cool, but because being part of a group actually makes you feel more confident. It’s true! According to recent research, people that belonged to a large number of clubs or groups reported much higher levels of confidence than others who had a large circle of friends, but didn’t belong to clubs or groups. Wonder why? It seems that groups contribute to your sense of self and social identity because they surround you with people who share your views and values. This, in turn, makes you feel accepted and understood. And when you’re among like-minded people, you feel less socially-awkward and have plenty of opportunities to make some new friends, which boosts your self-esteem even more. If your confidence could use a boost, maybe it’s time to regroup!
- Help Yourself By Helping Others
When you suffer from low self-esteem, you spend all of your time focused on how you don’t measure up, which only brings you down. Do you want to become more confident? Stop obsessing over yourself and start helping others. Volunteering can increase your self-esteem in a number of worthwhile ways. First of all, improving another’s life makes you feel appreciated. Secondly, it gives you a chance to meet new people who share your ideals and compassion. And lastly, you’ll see that you’re able to do new things and make a difference in someone’s life. So find a cause, a club or organization (don’t forget pet shelters) that needs assistance and offer a helping hand. You’ll soon discover how doing good helps you feel good about yourself.
It’s never too late to improve your self-esteem. Be assured that these four simple tips will give your confidence a boost—beyond a shadow of a doubt.